Well said, Roger, very well said. And thanks to Phil for responding.
CNA
rgibbs@pacbell.net writes:
>Thanks for the coming back to the list with these sentiments Phil.
>
>This is a tough time. A time of pain, of loss, and a need to work it all
>out.
>My experience is that in a time of loss, most people have a need to come
>to
>grips with their feelings. And talking about their feelings is one way of
>coping. Remeber this: feelings are not the same as facts. If someone
>says that
>they are angry about X.Y,Z that is probably the truth - they are angry.
>Whether
>or not they logicaly should be angry over those things. The feelings and
>emotions can still be very real.
>
>But you are right that this is not the best place to work these things
>out.
>Your coming here and pouring your guts outs in the original message
>indicates
>you consider this list to be a comfortable setting among friends, the
>local
>hangout where you can say what ever is on your mind. So please consider
>the
>replys to be the frank feelings of friends who disagree with some of your
>presumptions - seems like we are all working through some tough emotions.
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